Pursuit of happiness… What is it really?

Recently I had a conversation with a friend who asked what was my perception on achieving and maintaining happiness.  Quite frankly, it was easy for me to answer as I’m in direct agreement with Elizabeth Gilbert who says, ““Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings.” I couldn’t agree more.  To me, happiness doesn’t come easily, or willingly.  Of course, there are instances that reflect happiness, but does lasting happiness, of any sort, require great levels of effort?  I think so.

My friends argument is that gaining happiness is a result of that person discontinuing the pursuit.  Basically, sit back and happiness will come to you.  While I enjoy understanding other people’s view points and perceptions of life, in fact, it’s one of my favorite things to do, I disagree.  Maybe I’m inclined to depression or being stagnant in life, but simply waiting around for something to fall in my lap is not an option.

Lately I’ve been feeling discouraged and have very low motivation and, god dammit, I want to make a change.  So, once I find my happiness again I will be sure to insist upon its continued company.

Not much else to report… What is your perception of how to gain happiness, and most importantly, how do you maintain it?




3 thoughts on “Pursuit of happiness… What is it really?

  1. I think happiness requires effort and laughter. I realized about a month ago that I couldn’t remember the last time that I had laughed. Sad, I know, but true. I have made more of an effort to laugh since then and I’m happier now!

    Last week Mike experienced putt-putt golf for the first time. It was chilly and windy and I was carrying Marley in a baby carrier and Anna was cheating and I was (and still am) very behind on my schoolwork, but I laughed. It was hilarious that his ball ended up on the go cart track and then eventually in the goldfish pond. I couldn’t help but laugh in his face when Anna asked him if he wanted the blue ball. I must admit though that I wouldn’t have laughed a month ago. I would have complained. Now I have really happy memories of our trip to Destin last week instead of Dana the Grump memories 🙂

    Keep laughing!!

    1. Thanks for that, Dana. Laughing is wonderful. I remember being in 7th grade and being so depressed that I eventually would go in the bathroom and stare at the mirror and make myself laugh until I was actually laughing. Now, I do a dance for the day. It’s enjoyable.

      See you soon!


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